What is Partner or Couple Compatibility?
Compatibility is made up of a multitude of things in different forms. Similar and dissimilar interests, personal views on what is an actual relationship, political and philosophical views, past history, class, and cultural background are all aspects that can play a part in compatibility.
Partner or Couple compatibility exists, first and foremost, when a couple relates with equality and respect. It’s important for couples to have fun together and really enjoy the time they spend together. Relationships thrive when two people share companionship and activities. Although, a couple need not have every interest in common.
Even when you find the ideal choice for you, that person will not share all of your interests or meet all of your needs. It is also important to have friendships, a broader base of support and companionship, so you can fulfill all aspects of yourself.
No one is perfect; hence issues are bound to appear in any relationship. However, there is a potential partner who is compatible with you and with whom you could develop your ability to be a loving person.
Why is Relationship compatibility important?
People are not happy and content when they’re with someone they’re not compatible with. Unfortunately, we don’t always choose partners for the right reasons. We might be attracted to someone for unconscious reasons based on conditioning from our childhood. The psychological walls we formed in our early lives were adaptive to the interpersonal and social environment we grew up in, however, they may limit us in our adult relationships.
We tend to choose partners who treat us like we are treated in our social circles, so our adaptations fit. On an unconscious level, we are often looking for people who are not ideal for us. For example, if you’re quiet, and you pick a partner who is loud, you may fail to ever challenge yourself to speak up. You may agree to your partner’s decisions and let him or her drive the relationship, not really voicing your opinion or getting what you want.
In initial days, this pattern may seem comfortable and familiar based on the position we are conditioned for in our families and social backgrounds. But later on, couples often become resentful and angry about the traits of their partner that at first seemed so interesting and alluring.
When people connect based on unhealthy traits that fit together, the reasons they are attracted to a person eventually become the reason they are despised by that person. Someone they saw as being “observant” could start to seem “judgmental”. Someone they may have chosen for being “stable” may eventually seem “boring”. Someone they would have found very “charismatic” may soon strike as “narcissistic”.
In order to choose partners for the right reasons, our quest for a compatible relationship should never be a search for our “missing piece.” When we aspire or pursue someone who “completes” us, we might confine ourselves and our personal growth. Instead, we should choose partners who challenge us and help us evolve. We can even take chances with people who, at first, may make us uncomfortable, because they show more interest in and care for us than we are familiar with or comfortable with.
What you can look for when hoping to find relationship compatibility is someone who is open to trying new things, hearing feedback, and to evolve themselves. If you look for just one person to meet all your needs, you’re setting yourself up for disaster. Shared beliefs can be valuable to achieving partner compatibility, but separate interests are also to be expected. Couples should excite each other to enjoy their interests and share them with friends and family. They should also be open to engaging in each other’s interests and giving things a try. When it is about relationship compatibility, it’s very important to care for each other, to consistently like, respect, and support each other as independent individuals.
How does the Couple Compatibility Test help in understanding a Partner?
It’s so valuable to really explore and think about your dating patterns in the past that didn’t work for you in the long term. What inner dynamics are at play that may hurt your relationships? Do you have the tendency to be too critical? Do you control the relationship by trying? Do you have a tendency to defer to your partner? By recognizing your own protections and critical internal voices, you can separate the real you from those unhealthy adaptations you’ve formed from hurtful past experiences.
Relationship or couple compatibility testing helps you identify all of the above according to your innate personality. Once you know your innate personality traits you can easily identify similar or complementary traits to suit your partner’s preferences and help each other live happier. Our Biometric Couple Analysis / Test conveys the littlest of the subtleties that play a role in understanding each other. It helps you learn the emotional trigger points of your partner – what makes them happy or sad. It frequently happens that a marriage arrives at a phase wherein it has lost its passion or the appeal it once had. The couple may unquestionably want to return to the ‘upbeat occasions’. The outcome of the analysis encourages you and helps you comprehend what you could do and change to continue your marriage just like previously.